Hey guys,
I hope everyone is doing great. We have finally settled in the new house, but I'm still trying to get used to the new city. The house has everything we need, apart from very few things.
My computer time has been cut off massively, due to all the preps, and since I got Skyrim, my simming time has been minimised even further. I do try to get up earlier in the morning, as I can only play when Mike is at work, but even if I manage to do that, I finish all the chores around 1:00 -2:00 pm so that leaves me 3h of gaming tops, since i have to stop whatever I'm doing around 4:00pm to heat up the lunch and prepare the table.
The wedding is very close now, only 10 days away, and everything is almost ready. We do have a few things to do still, but they are mostly stuff that need last minute checking and planning. Like the menu of the reception party, or the bows that we'll decorate the apt balcony with.
However my neurotic trait has completely taken over me. I feel that we are forgetting something very important, or that when we'll arrive at the Town Hall , that they'll kick us out because they have not noted down the date right. Plus I've lost a bit of weight with all the running around and stress, and I'm afraid that the drees will simply slip off of me...
This past months have been very stressful for both of us. Finding the apt to rent, looking for furniture, cleaning the apt that was extremely dirty (I'm pretty sure the woman who lived here with her family before us, was divorced with house chores all together.), waiting for the furniture and appliances to arrive, buying all the essential nick knacks (sp?) around the house,moving all my stuff here, my GC dieing because of the move, Mike's car crash that thankfully did not hurt him, but it hurt our pockets as the car was rendered useless and we had to buy a new one and then the wedding planning..
Apart from the cleaning part, we got no help from anyone. At all. I wasn't expecting much from my folks, as they are 200km away - they did offer though- but from Mike's folks we were definitely expecting just a bit of help.
The public transportation here at Patras is not as good as back home at Athens, plus I know very little about going to places here, so for almost everything I have to wait for Mike. Mike gets off work around 5:00 - 6:00 pm. Stores are open till 8:30pm , except Monday and Wednesday when they close at 3:00pm. So in that time frame , between 6:00 and 8:30 pm Mike returns home, takse a quick shower, eats lunch (lunch here is a full meal usually eaten somewhere between 1:00pm to 4:00pm)and then we run around for wedding plans.
No one, and I mean it when I say no one, offered to help in all this. No one offered to drive me anywhere I could go alone , to spare Mike the trouble. No one offered to suggest any stores, but they were kind enough, after we settled on something, to tell us off for not going to the x store that was cheaper and not looking properly for better prices. Not to mention the fact that the same people were also pressuring us to hurry up, so there will be no stuff left to do at the last moment.
We were also told to buy Mike's parents formal outfits for the wedding, as they couldn't afford them themselves. We did not say no to that, but when my mother's in law needed shortening, again no one offered to take it to the tailor's. In fact they refused to do that, when we kindly asked, so we had to do that as well. With lots of whining before and after, they did at least change my father's in law shoes.
At some point we got the stunning answer "why? what do you have to do" when we told them "can't you do it? we don't have enough time"
My head is still ringing with "what? you still didn't do that?Hurry up! before you know it's time is gonna come and it won't be ready!" shortly followed by "how much? that's so expensive! Why didn't you research more?I know a store that is at least 20% cheaper"
And then we come to the money part..I'm very very grateful to my father. We had LOADS of "Fatherload" help, and we still have...We knew from the start that Mike's family didn't have a dime to offer, so we were not expecting anything..On the other hand we got and still are getting lots of "gimme.." suggestions..
"Gimme 30 euros to go to that party", "gimme 20 euros to buy my gf a birthday present", "buy me a pack of cigs", "I need some money to buy shoes for your niece", "take your nephew to the barber", "I don't have gas in my scooter, drive me there" and the brilliant "I need 100euros to pay my speeding ticket, I'd ask our uncle but he'd want the money back" ...Did any of them notice that we are starting our own family now and we have a TONE of stuff to pay for?Did it occur to ANY of them that currently Mike is the only one working right now?Nope. I'll tell you exactly what they think "Mike is working and is getting payed, and the fact that he is getting married means he has money to do so, so lets ask him for some". Yup, that's exactly what they are thinking.
Last but not least we have the wedding part as a whole."Why are you doing a town hall wedding and not a church one?", "why are you spending so much and not doing it like my friend did? the groom,the bride, the parents and the mayor?", "why did you buy a dress? It's a town hall wedding, you could go with a pair of jeans"...Yes it's a Town Hall wedding and it's OUR wedding for God's sake and we are gonna do it anyway WE like.
All I can say is that psychologically I'm a wreck. I don't have enough time to relax, I feel pressured by everything, I'm stressed , I miss my family and friends that were left behind when I moved here and I feel like I have to do everything completely by myself since as much as Mike does help by driving me around and being extremely patient with everything (he is very hot headed in general) he still leaves all the decisions on my shoulders. It does sound cool and charming having the guy let you take the wheel, it comes with major responsibility and stress that sometimes is really hard to live with.
I can't say I'm not happy. I am. And grateful. I'm delighted that this moment has finally arrived. It's every girls dream right?After 7 years together, we are finally tying the knot, and we've been living together for 4 months now. But this stress, this pressure, this whole thing in my head it's driving me nuts and I can't enjoy this special moment. I am happy but I can't relax and live it! I just want to get on with it so I can finally relax. I just want to fall asleep and wake up 15 mins before the wedding. Is it possible?
Now I get why people get cold feet...
10 days to go..do you think I still have time to run?
I hope everyone is doing great. We have finally settled in the new house, but I'm still trying to get used to the new city. The house has everything we need, apart from very few things.
My computer time has been cut off massively, due to all the preps, and since I got Skyrim, my simming time has been minimised even further. I do try to get up earlier in the morning, as I can only play when Mike is at work, but even if I manage to do that, I finish all the chores around 1:00 -2:00 pm so that leaves me 3h of gaming tops, since i have to stop whatever I'm doing around 4:00pm to heat up the lunch and prepare the table.
The wedding is very close now, only 10 days away, and everything is almost ready. We do have a few things to do still, but they are mostly stuff that need last minute checking and planning. Like the menu of the reception party, or the bows that we'll decorate the apt balcony with.
However my neurotic trait has completely taken over me. I feel that we are forgetting something very important, or that when we'll arrive at the Town Hall , that they'll kick us out because they have not noted down the date right. Plus I've lost a bit of weight with all the running around and stress, and I'm afraid that the drees will simply slip off of me...
This past months have been very stressful for both of us. Finding the apt to rent, looking for furniture, cleaning the apt that was extremely dirty (I'm pretty sure the woman who lived here with her family before us, was divorced with house chores all together.), waiting for the furniture and appliances to arrive, buying all the essential nick knacks (sp?) around the house,moving all my stuff here, my GC dieing because of the move, Mike's car crash that thankfully did not hurt him, but it hurt our pockets as the car was rendered useless and we had to buy a new one and then the wedding planning..
Apart from the cleaning part, we got no help from anyone. At all. I wasn't expecting much from my folks, as they are 200km away - they did offer though- but from Mike's folks we were definitely expecting just a bit of help.
The public transportation here at Patras is not as good as back home at Athens, plus I know very little about going to places here, so for almost everything I have to wait for Mike. Mike gets off work around 5:00 - 6:00 pm. Stores are open till 8:30pm , except Monday and Wednesday when they close at 3:00pm. So in that time frame , between 6:00 and 8:30 pm Mike returns home, takse a quick shower, eats lunch (lunch here is a full meal usually eaten somewhere between 1:00pm to 4:00pm)and then we run around for wedding plans.
No one, and I mean it when I say no one, offered to help in all this. No one offered to drive me anywhere I could go alone , to spare Mike the trouble. No one offered to suggest any stores, but they were kind enough, after we settled on something, to tell us off for not going to the x store that was cheaper and not looking properly for better prices. Not to mention the fact that the same people were also pressuring us to hurry up, so there will be no stuff left to do at the last moment.
We were also told to buy Mike's parents formal outfits for the wedding, as they couldn't afford them themselves. We did not say no to that, but when my mother's in law needed shortening, again no one offered to take it to the tailor's. In fact they refused to do that, when we kindly asked, so we had to do that as well. With lots of whining before and after, they did at least change my father's in law shoes.
At some point we got the stunning answer "why? what do you have to do" when we told them "can't you do it? we don't have enough time"
My head is still ringing with "what? you still didn't do that?Hurry up! before you know it's time is gonna come and it won't be ready!" shortly followed by "how much? that's so expensive! Why didn't you research more?I know a store that is at least 20% cheaper"
And then we come to the money part..I'm very very grateful to my father. We had LOADS of "Fatherload" help, and we still have...We knew from the start that Mike's family didn't have a dime to offer, so we were not expecting anything..On the other hand we got and still are getting lots of "gimme.." suggestions..
"Gimme 30 euros to go to that party", "gimme 20 euros to buy my gf a birthday present", "buy me a pack of cigs", "I need some money to buy shoes for your niece", "take your nephew to the barber", "I don't have gas in my scooter, drive me there" and the brilliant "I need 100euros to pay my speeding ticket, I'd ask our uncle but he'd want the money back" ...Did any of them notice that we are starting our own family now and we have a TONE of stuff to pay for?Did it occur to ANY of them that currently Mike is the only one working right now?Nope. I'll tell you exactly what they think "Mike is working and is getting payed, and the fact that he is getting married means he has money to do so, so lets ask him for some". Yup, that's exactly what they are thinking.
Last but not least we have the wedding part as a whole."Why are you doing a town hall wedding and not a church one?", "why are you spending so much and not doing it like my friend did? the groom,the bride, the parents and the mayor?", "why did you buy a dress? It's a town hall wedding, you could go with a pair of jeans"...Yes it's a Town Hall wedding and it's OUR wedding for God's sake and we are gonna do it anyway WE like.
All I can say is that psychologically I'm a wreck. I don't have enough time to relax, I feel pressured by everything, I'm stressed , I miss my family and friends that were left behind when I moved here and I feel like I have to do everything completely by myself since as much as Mike does help by driving me around and being extremely patient with everything (he is very hot headed in general) he still leaves all the decisions on my shoulders. It does sound cool and charming having the guy let you take the wheel, it comes with major responsibility and stress that sometimes is really hard to live with.
I can't say I'm not happy. I am. And grateful. I'm delighted that this moment has finally arrived. It's every girls dream right?After 7 years together, we are finally tying the knot, and we've been living together for 4 months now. But this stress, this pressure, this whole thing in my head it's driving me nuts and I can't enjoy this special moment. I am happy but I can't relax and live it! I just want to get on with it so I can finally relax. I just want to fall asleep and wake up 15 mins before the wedding. Is it possible?
Now I get why people get cold feet...
10 days to go..do you think I still have time to run?
